Change is inevitable.
When we were young we learned how to ride a bike, we got comfortable with it. For most, the concept of comfortability is second nature. Whether it's a riding a bike, a consistent friend group, or a safe haven that they can remain in for eternity. Finding that comfortability comes easy, but the uncomfortable is hard. When it comes to change, by nature people just don't handle it well. Change and confidence don't really go hand in hand, which makes it harder and harder to get out of our norm.
I'll be honest, I'm really good at getting comfortable too. But I decided to make a change. Over the past 3 years, my personality type has grown more toward pushing myself constantly to try new things and grow. With that has come a lot of change, and even more uncomfortableness. My brain turned from comfortable, into a "yes" man. It's like a mental request or notification pops up in my conscience once a month saying "Go do something great!" So I do. Now, don't worry, I still have forms of comfortability (I promise). I still drink Almond Milk Caramel Lattes once a week from Starbucks, keep my Instagram tidy with vertical and horizontal photos, watch West World on Sundays and wear my favorite comfy t-shirt to bed. By nature, we need these forms of comfort, but by nature we also need to push our limits into the uncomfortable.
At this point in my life, that mental request is EVERYTHING to me. Whether it's re-organizing my bedroom, going to an event I've never attended, or chatting someone new up at a coffee shop to see if we vibe; this is just how clay has molded. Don't get me wrong, finding things you love that make you comfortable is completely healthy, and I have those things too. But what I don't want to do is get so comfortable that I'm not living an exploratory and open-minded life. Adapting and adjusting, modifying and refining, these are the glory words.
With that, when I get into that comfortable "I'm going to go home everyday after work and binge watch netflix for 30 days straight mood" here are some things I do to jump start my brain to think outside the box:
Order something you've never had before at your favorite coffee shop and brainstorm.
Brainstorming is done in many ways, I do best with a little liquid energy. Get out of your mental funk and think about where you are in life, and where you want to be in the next week, month, or year. Who do YOU want to be, and how do YOU want to change.
Find that event that sounds really fun, but you're too afraid to go by yourself.
Open a new tab on your computer and start googling fun things to do in the city you're in (things you normally wouldn't do). Concerts, Live podcasts, Art Shows, Speakers, Grand Openings, Museums, whatever zesty thing you'd like. Then, go do it. Sure, you can invite a friend if you must. But try to go at it alone.
Take a different route, physically and mentally.
Walking to work? Switch it up, give yourself 15 more minutes on your commute and take the long way there. Mentally, think about things you haven't thought about before. Test your brain to learn something about birds or plants, a new language maybe. You could even try out a new podcast, or read a new book to get your mind wandering down a new path.
Make an irrational decision, or three.
Irrational decisions always get me out of my comfort zone. Nothing permeant of course, I'm not telling you to go get a tattoo or marry a stranger. But maybe go buy those shoes you've been wanting for 2 years but didn’t think you could pull off, or go ask the guy you always see at your local bar out on a date. Jump off a bridge if you must, but don't kill yourself.
Lastly, meet someone new.
People are so terrified to speak to strangers. Granted our parent's always said "don't talk to strangers". But I don't think that's the issue, it's that we are so used to communicating on devices that we've introverted humanity (trust me, I have a lot more to say on this topic. But I'll stop there.) We're also so stuck in our friend groups that we tend to acknowledge those we are comfortable around. Get uncomfortable, go talk to a stranger. Be safe about it, don't do it in an alley or a back stair well. Strike up a conversation with the sales associate at your favorite store, or standing in line at the DMV. People are cool, you are too.
Remember, change will forever be inevitable. Life will change whether you are making the change or not. So, create your own change requests. In the process, I guarantee you will change your opinion or perspective on certain things, or even learn something new about who you are or who you want to become. Now, go chase after that spark of fear and change your own world.